35 days of being homemaker

April 2016 Gulbarga

April, a month that always haunted me after what happened in 2011. But there they says, there is a sunrise after every dark night. Therefore,  not to miss, every April after 2011 came with a new memory in making for me.

April 2012- one of the best years of our life. Preparing for exams together and waiting to be placed.

April 2013- offer letters arrived with a new pain of separation.

April 2014- A tiny repitation  of the past which made both of us stronger.

April 2015-best holiday of our lifetime. Beer,  beaches and us.

And then it came, the most awaited April of my life till date.

April 2016

This was the first after we ringed each other, after we exchanged garlands. This was the first time I didn’t have to lie/hide from anyone to be with my love. This was the first time I could take my own decision and inform my parents. Yes its official now!

And I did it. One not-so-fine Sunday, I booked my one-way ticket to ‘my heaven’ . Yes it was my heaven, where my prince charming lives. Where  there is no tension of office, where there is no frustration of being alone. Where there is no sleeping empty stomach, where there is no wetting pillows all night. Where there is peace of mind and love in  his arms. Where there is no pain of separation, where there is no fear of lie, where there is no fight in between, where there is endless love and laughter. Doesn’t  that looks like a perfect gateway? It indeed is. That’s why I call it ‘my heaven’ 

A heaven, where you don’t need angels to serve you but you create your own angels in yourselves. And my this tiny heaven stays in Gulbarga, a small conservative city in Karnataka. I knew nothing about the place when I Came. But now I know many folds to this beautiful island of mine. An island surrounded with not water but love and respect. Love of my very own husband. I read many pages of his unknown chapters for the first time. And non-the-less to say I discovered his deeper feelings for me which I know he can’t even disclose. 

Being housewife, sounds like household chores. Yes its true. It’s a fact actually. We call them housewives who stay at home, cook, wash, clean and wait for their husbands to come back from work with some or the other good news. This is exactly what I wanted to do. I wanted to live one month of my mother or mother-in-laws’s life. And let me tell you, it’s mesmerizing. 

I was afraid at first. Being a working woman, who hates to cook and wash clothes everyday,how will I do that? But at the same time I was confident on being a Woman. A woman always has hidden powers, remember? Therefore I did it. And I did it all quite successfully. At least I am satisfied. That’s what matters right? 

And again I am afraid, I am afraid of going back to my old routine. My return tickets were booked and there I was, scared even of putting my stuff into a bag. It was a feeling of separating them from their very soul. But… Yes there is a always a but… 

But, remembering this April will always cherish me. This rejuvenating One month I had with my husband was like cherry on the top of a regular cake. I know there are millions of days like this to come, zillions of memories to be build. But the laughter, the smiles, the cuddles, the love, the short trips,  the cooking, the talks we shared are so much burdenless. A relief from the outside world. 

And even after spending our honeymoon in ‘God’s own country-Munnar’, I would say that this is our real honeymoon. I am so thankful to me for being so bold and to my love for giving me the strength to take bold decisions once in a while. 

This was me in April 2016 and it’s 2018 now. And let me update you with my current status. I along with my husband live in a 2bhk in one of the most beautiful states in the country. Everything is as perfect as it looks with our jobs, our passion, our bonding. I am still learning him and he is still teaching me life ๐Ÿ˜‰ On being homemaker or working woman. I proudly say that I am both. In fact we both are both. We both work we both do house chores. We both strengthen each other. That’s what’s spouses are for. Right? Then we must be doing it right ๐Ÿ˜

Let’s conclude 2017 ~ 17things of 2017

******Long post Alert ******

Let’s have a kickass start to the new year. But before, let’s conclude 2017 in a nice way. 2017. Like every year, it had something new, something interesting, some things funny and some things horrible. But wait, it’s just the first day of the new beginning, atleast calender, why talk about the bad or horrible things that already took their turn to make us sad and cry. Let’s forget those teary moments and re-live the happy moments that a whole of year served us.

Quite from the last few days, my mind has been filled with the things that i/we did this year. All the adventures, all the mini successes, all the short trips, all the cakes we had. ๐Ÿ˜‚ Okay. That doesn’t count but what count anyways?

Count is what we want to count. How much we laughed. How many memories we made. What different cuisines we had. ๐Ÿ™Š yeah I accept I lovvvvve to eat.. And my happiest moment is knowing that I won’t go fat no matter how much I eat( touchwood everything ๐Ÿ˜).

Let’s get back to the post and let’s conclude this fantastic one year with the 17 awesome things that happened to me this year that changed my life at least for a little bit.

  1. Celebrated our 1st marriage anniversary:ย 1st of everything is just so exciting for us. May be our genes are programmed that way. 1st birthday, 1st anniversary to anything. But for us, it was just a 1st marriage anniversary. What excite us more is our love anniversary that counts way more than 1 ๐Ÿ˜€
  2. Got my first tattoo :ย What else I could get other than what I always wanna be- a flying bird.
  3. My first DSLR :ย ย On my 27th birthday this March, my not so lovey-dovey husband decided to gift me DSLR which I was longing for a long time without even telling him once. I just loved clicking landscapes with my phone and he got the point. It’s time to upgrade me ๐Ÿ“ท
  4. Photography :ย As I said I already had so much interest in clicking pictures with my phone, but dunno what charged me up with the cam in hand. It gives so much happiness. No I don’t call myself a photographer just because I own a DSLR. I actually love doing it whenever and wherever I get opportunity. I was quite doing okay with my kit lens till my hubby showed his love in a bigger way๐Ÿ‘‡
  5. Tamron zoom lens :ย I got wings with loads of feathers and there was no stoppage. We moved to Goa in 2016 and since then I have been obsessed with birds. I see these beautiful flying creatures everywhere specially behind our home. It was really hard to capture any of them with kit lens of mobile cam. But not any more. I know it’s just can lend upto max 300mm but for a beginner like me, I don’t deserve more ๐Ÿ™ˆ who can’t give a fixed proper time to the thing she has on top list of her priorities.ย Please check out my birding encounters here if you haven’t already.ย And hereย 
  6. Brother got engaged :ย My elder brother finally got engaged this year and completed my mom’s family. This couldn’t be any less than the happiest moment for my family. I love the new member of my family ๐Ÿ˜˜
  7. Became my hubby’s official video editor and maker :ย He is passionate about his guitar and music. Although he can’t devote his full time to his first love but he does what he can and needs to be done. He started a YouTube channel on his guitar covers and originals ->ย https://www.youtube.com/user/crap1ifyAnd there I was, behind the camera, holding the tripod. We have uncounted memories made during the recording sessions. Indoor and outdoor. I love the sessions and post editing the videos. I have learned a lot so far.
  8. Started my blog :ย Frankly speaking I wanted to do something more with my life by exploring and expressing. I am an extreme extrovert and love to express myself. Again my hubby suggested me to start with WordPress and I can’t thank him enough. Riyasownspace.wordpress.com
  9. Poetess in making :ย I always had this keen interest in giving my feelings shape and size. And nothing can’t be better than poetry. My vocabulary is not strong yet but I write what I feel like. Check some of them here.
  10. Started Exploring Goa and surroundings which is to be continued :Hopping on to our scooty with camera on neck, we explored many places in and around Goa. Cabo de Rama fort, agonda beach, etc. in south goa. Chorla ghat in Goa- karnataka border. Amboli hills in maharashtra border and many nearby hidden spots like chorao Island etc. We love being here and exploring.
  11. 1st family trip :ย Earlier in 2016 diwali, my in law family came to visit us and we spent time in Goa. Hence this year we went to our home town to spend Diwali (click here for my post on Diwali) and made a trip to Haridwar-Hrishikesh-Mussorie. Trust me, family is where we belong.
  12. 1st time river – rafting :ย While in Hrishikesh, I along with my husband and sis-in-law went for a 18km long river rafting in the river Ganga to make some ever cherisable memories. It was so much fun. Let it be for some other time else my long post will be too long to even read.
  13. Started doing yoga :ย Just a beginner.
  14. Treated ourselves with our first ever pet. Our fish bowl. : They are 4 of them. Named them uggu, puggu, chuggu, tuggu.
  15. Getting along with crafts and creativity. :ย Always been a creative person, I never pushed myself this far. From creating personalized gifts to all kinds of of craft activities. I am interested where there is art and creativity. Please check my pageย ย if you are interested too – > From my craft’s corner
  16. Ankit’s YouTube channel got monetized and we celebrated completion of its one year journey. ๐Ÿ‘‡https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xWtZI0S6pas
  17. Celebrated Christmas like never before. :No its not about the party,dance,dress or alcohol. Its about my first ever Christmas tree.My very own. ๐Ÿ˜€ Made some decors myself and decorated the whole tree by myself. I never had a tree before so you might guess my excitement. All credit goes to my bunny bear.


Check out how to make these cute snowmen here ->ย https://riyasownspace.wordpress.com/2017/12/23/mini-snowman-diy-christmas-decor-from-my-crafts-corner/

Final good bye ๐Ÿ‘‹ to this wonderful year.

Unlike others, who come to goa for partying in the new year’s eve, we are more of private person. How we spend the last weekend of the year? Got some cake, yeah a lot of them ๐Ÿ˜‹. Roam around the roads to see the Christmas decorations in and around the city. Dine out with one of our friends. Went to bird sanctuary early in the morning. Watched a 3D comedy movie. Played some badminton. And screamed 3..2..1..Happy new year to my hubby ๐Ÿ˜‚

Cheers to all the cheerful memories of 2017 and with warm hug and hope. Let’s welcome a brand new year of fun, success, love and creativity.

Until Next time

Much love

Riya